THERE IS AN EMOTIONAL INNER CHILD IN ALL OF US

Little Children in Grown Up Bodies

What is stopping you from achieving the results you want (by yourself)?

Research has definitely shown that when a child/person experiences a trauma, they become emotionally stuck at that point in time until the trauma has been addressed and resolved. Our “Inner Child” - the deepest, truest aspect of who we are in our (spiritual/inner-being) hearts must be brought to Him to be healed & offered as it is, because it is the only thing of value that we have to really give to Him. Our real self has been hidden away ever since we first “split” in order to protect ourselves and started creating alternate masks to be agreement in relationship with significant people and events/contexts in our lives (Metaphor: Paper Dolls/Internal References)

“When Home is where the Hurt is”

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Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, they learn to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If a child lives with shame, they learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, they learn confidence. If a child lives with praise, they learn to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, they learn justice. If a child lives with security, they learn to have faith. If a child lives with approval, they learn to like their self and be authentic. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, they learn to give and find love with others.

Our Relationship with our Parents = foundation for everything

No one gets through Life without experiencing Trauma of some sort. Any time a child/person is traumatized (experiences trauma) They become emotionally stuck developmentally - fixed (Trapped) in time - (by their own defensive psyche walls and maladaptive coping skills created to protect that vulnerable part of you from re-injury and experiencing that kind of pain again) - until at such time they are able to experience a healthy relationship that resolves the issue and changes their core beliefs (kind of like changing a bad tattoo by redesigning the image over it by creating a second tattoo that incorporates the initial tattoo but eliminates it by its creation).

“We look forward to the time when the Power of Love is greater than the Love of Power. Then will our relationships and the world know the blessings of peace.” - JESUS - Actions speak louder than words.

Reiterated by Jimi Hendrix, William E. Gladstone

No Therapy, Brainspotting, or Hypnotherapy will work or be successful unless the client wants it to be. As much as they are willing to join in the journey and own their participation in the process is the same degree to which they will experience change and a better life. Any coercion or pressure by the therapist will only create resistance, so there must be a strong therapeutic bond of trust and a safe, nonjudgmental environment in which the client can become vulnerable, let down their defenses, and experience something different than what they have always experienced, a new and better way.

PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE! Do not believe that you can come to counseling for one hour a week or every two weeks… (while having 167 hours a week outside of the session for you to enact and practice faithfully those things you learned in session). If you do not consistently work on change outside of the session you will accomplish nothing and your lifestyle will NOT change. You will simply be deceiving yourself and wasting my time (and your $). I have limited years remaining and want to invest my time and talents in those who do not take it for granted. If you want traditional counseling please go to one of the many cookie-cutter counselors offered in your area. I cannot want a better/healthier life for you than you do and be successful at treating you. We HAVE to work together - collaboratively.

Couples, Families, Children & Adults who suffer from trauma, and/or are on the ASD spectrum; or have BPD, BPII, PTSD, CPTSD, etc. - It is about meeting people where they are at and looking at their heart instead of the behaviors - Change is possible!

Related: Young Children are egocentric and blame themselves (I am bad) for the abuse they experienced. (Scapegoats & Black sheep). Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t. 💕

Matthew 18:3/19:14 & Luke 18:16 - “Jesus said, Let the little children come to me , and do not hinder them, for the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as these.” “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven.”